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More than words
Q. What's the difference between a celebrant and a registrar?
A. Tanya Jones says: The fact that you can have your wedding at any time you choose, in any place you choose, including absolutely anything is a great place to begin. But I always come back to the main difference, which is the words. The ceremony itself is written just for you, so each one is completely personal. I believe the words you speak during your vows are among the most meaningful you'll ever say to each other, so they should be absolutely right for you.
What this all means is that you'll be able to relax and really enjoy your ceremony just as much as the rest of your day with only happy nerves, not nervous nerves. You'll feel confident in the knowledge that your celebrant, who's guiding you through the most important moment in your lives, will ensure you won't have any awkward words or phrases to stumble through. It'll be remembered for all the right reasons.
It's worth bearing in mind that a celebrant-led ceremony isn't legal, so you would still need to register your marriage at a Register Office, which can be taken care of shortly before your big day.
Tanya Jones,Perfect Promises
Be bold, be brave, be you
Q. How can we inject our personalities into our ceremony so that it's uniquely ours?
A. Merie Brown says: If you have a church or register office ceremony, you'll know what to expect. It's all about the process that every couple needs to follow to make your union legal. You'll have a set service following rules and guidelines. I myself had a register office ceremony; it was lovely but filled with words set by a stranger.
The main difference with a celebrant-led service is that it's not a legal marriage, but a wedding ceremony for each person to declare their feelings in vows they make to each other. My job is to make sure that they're the most important words of your day and they can take as long or as little time as you wish. I'll also spend time getting to know you, learning as much about your personalities as possible. Everyone has their own style and some ideas are more unique than others – what do you say to the couple who want a nudist ceremony, or the lady who wants to be Princess Leia?! But it's ok if that's what makes it personal to you. So be it Luke Skywalker or Minnie Mouse your personality will shine through on your day. So go for it. Be unique and have the ceremony that means the most to you both.
Merie Brown,Orange Rose Ceremonies
Using a celebrant
Q. What are the benefits of using a celebrant rather than a registrar?
A. Rachael Thompson says: Simple! Celebrants will work alongside you to ensure your ceremony lives up to your dreams. There are no restrictions on venue, date, location or time. You can hold your “I dos” where you chose. The venue doesn’t have to be licensed, so that special place may be a beach at sunset, a woodland glade, or even your own garden.
You’ll find that your celebrant will take the time to get to know you as a couple, so that they can create a loving and meaningful ceremony totally reflective of you. There’ll be no standard script, no rules, and no wondering who’s going to turn up on the day to perform your nuptials. You also have the option to include any symbolic rituals, or perhaps you prefer to keep the more traditional elements, it’s completely up to you. What’s more, my ceremonies are dog-friendly so your best buddy doesn’t have to miss out on the fun.
It’s worth noting though, that celebrant-led ceremonies aren’t legally binding, but a quick visit to the registrar to complete the legalities is all that’s necessary.
Bind us together
Q. I've heard about a handfasting ceremony as an alternative to a traditional service but don't know what it entails. Can you tell me more?
A. Claire Bradford says: Handfasting is a beautiful ceremony with roots that go way back in history. It's the origin of the phrase “tying the knot” and symbolises a couple binding their lives together in love. You can opt for a full handfasting ceremony, which includes aspects such as “calling in the quarters,” where your union is blessed with the qualities associated with compass directions. Alternatively, you can choose to incorporate it into any ceremony style you wish.
Some couples opt to have the handfasting cord wrapped around their hands as they say their vows. It's then tied to signify the binding nature of their promises to each other. Others will have guests come up and add ribbons so that they end up with a colourful pompom. There's a wealth of possibilities.
The handfasting cords themselves can be made from football scarves, lengths of family tartan or plaited ribbons to match the day's palette. One couple even knitted their own in the colours of their respective Hogwarts houses! Ask your celebrant how to make your ceremony personal to you.
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